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Elissa Altman's avatar

I know very little about Badenoch, but enough to be able to draw a comparison to T here in the States: the breathtaking cruelty, the bullying, the utter disregard for the lives and struggles and quiet triumphs of others. I read your post several times and each time it cracked my heart in half a little bit more. This is a story of healing and humanity, and I shudder at the idea that anyone would create a “pamphlet” identifying autism as a factor impeding economic growth. It throws off more than a passing whiff of Spiegelgrund and is wildly dangerous. Your candor is life-saving, and brought tears to my eyes. ❤️

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Simply Amber Lou's avatar

Thank you for sharing what is deeply personal to you. As a mother of an autistic son I have seen first hand the suffering and pain for him in a world that wasn't set up for anyone that isn't neurotypical. For Kemi (and I hadn't heard of her comments about this until now) to make such loaded statements is hugely insensitive and I would add ignorant of someone who doesn't know the damage her words will do to people whom already feel like they don't fit. To politicise disability in order to make headlines and to gain traction is a low blow. The system had not helped our son and when he couldn't go to school and when he was suicidal at 14, everything about our life for 2 years became about saving his. Which as a mother is the hardest thing to write. Saving him from himself was the priority. Piecing him back together was the most painful thing to have experienced. Living through each day worried he would cause himself harm that he couldn't come back from was my greatest fear. He had to work so hard to understand himself again, to know who he was without having to mask which had worn him down without realising that that is what he was doing. All of his support had to be private because the school and system couldn't give him access to what he needed which included a diagnosis of multiple neurodiverse conditions. I dread to think what I would be writing now had we not have made the decisions we did because the psychologist (whom also worked in the NHS) said he was at breaking point. In my mind, there isn't enough and enough at the right time for people in need. Our son will forever be judged in situations where he 'should' be doing or behaving in a certain way, he will forever have to battle to navigate the world as it is rather than a world where everyone is understood and catered for. I know this isn't an open letter but I'm glad you wrote this because it stands for everyone that struggles to find their place and continues to adapt themselves to fit in with what norms have said they must. Standing tall isn't easy when the place we all exist within can make us feel small but it is where courage meets what eventually will be the change that encompasses us all. :-)x

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